Dear Aggie,
I have recently moved away to start a new job and I’m having doubts about my two-year relationship. I don’t want to look back on my early 20s and regret being tied down. But I am scared to finish it because I don’t want to break his heart.
Aggie Pratt replies: You obviously don’t want to continue this relationship, you have moved away, you’re worried about being tied down (what you and he do in private is no concern of mine) and you don’t say anything about your heart breaking. Ditch him now, you will probably be surprised at how relieved he is that he can extract himself from this awful relationship with the conceited cow that you obviously are without any effort on his own part.
Dear Aggie Pratt,
After 10 years of a very happy marriage, my husband went very cool on everything. I asked him what the matter was and he said if I wanted our marriage to survive I had to look more attractive. He said he was fed up with seeing me slopping around in old baggy trousers.
He wanted me to wear stockings, to dye my hair blond, and he said he wanted sex whenever he felt like it and however he wanted it.
I’ve died my hair, I try to look good, and I even give in to things I don’t like in bed, but it doesn’t seem to have made any difference. He’s still distant and unloving, and I’m at my wit’s end.
Aggie Pratt replies: Fortunately for you your marriage seems to be over. Your husband has probably gone ‘very cool’ as you put it because he is having an affair and no matter what you do it will not make any difference.
Why shouldn’t you slop around at home sometimes? It’s your home too and you want to feel comfortable in your own home, don’t you? And why should you dye your hair (and if you’ve been using Hydrogen Peroxide products it will do your hair no good at all)?
You should never give in to things you don’t like in bed. This man doesn’t love you, he’s just using you. Get out now, you may find a human being.
Dear Aggie,
I’m 28 and in a relationship without any deep feelings on my part. I have affection for my partner but there’s no real intimacy. Splitting up is unrealistic as we live together and I’m financially dependent on him, which adds a strong bond. He says he loves me but I am not sure he understands what love means.
Aggie Pratt replies: I don’t know about your partner but you obviously don’t know what love means. When you were a child you probably had somewhere to live and were given pocket money, but you are now 28 and it’s about time you grew up. You don’t love this man, you say there is no intimacy, and you don’t even trust what he says. I feel sorry for him, he’s keeping an immature nasty leach and I hope he realises it soon.
Dear Aggie Pratt,
I am 20 and recently got engaged. While I’m interested in sex, I’m unable to orgasm. This isn’t a problem with me as I love my fiancé, but he doesn’t enjoy it unless I do and I’m terrified of destroying his confidence. I’ve tried faking but he knows. I’m very shy about my body as I’m overweight so trying new positions and sexy lingerie is out for me.
Aggie Pratt replies: Unfortunately your letter is rather contradictory. You are unable to orgasm but your fiancé only enjoys it when you do; you are overweight but you cannot wear sexy lingerie or try new positions.
How overweight you are and why I don’t know. In my experience women tend to think they are overweight without any reason. If you really are gross and it’s not because of some unfortunate medical condition I’d suggest that you get off your arse, put those chocolates down and regularly take a walk. In the meantime there is absolutely no reason why you can’t wear sexy lingerie which are made for all sizes or try any new position providing there is no danger of asphyxiation involved.
I think your real problem is that your fiancé isn’t making enough effort to please you but more concerned with his own selfish relief. Either try and sort this out now or break off your engagement. You are young and there are plenty more men out there.
Dear Aggie Pratt,
My son has recently broken up with his girlfriend and he’s very low. Sometimes he seems to be fine, but whenever he’s round here he just mopes about. He keeps telling me how unhappy he is in his job, and how he’ll never find another girlfriend. Twice in the last six months I’ve noticed he’s drunk a bit too much and I feel so anxious for him.
Sometimes I wake in the night crying with anxiety about him, wishing and wishing I could do something to cheer him up. I cannot bear to see him unhappy.
Aggie Pratt replies: You have obviously spent half your life doting on your son, with the result that he now comes moping around whenever the slightest thing goes wrong. He has left home, now tell him to get on with it and leave him alone.
He doesn’t seem to be any different to any other young man. Most dislike their employment, I’d be concerned if he didn’t have more than ‘a bit too much’ to drink and if he’s normal girlfriends will come and go at fairly regular intervals.
